I’m not a counselor, but I know there are many deep rooted issues that can be behind these self confidence issues. I understand that. I’m also not verified to help diagnose our test these issues, but I would recommend that if in your or your spouses opinion, these issues are serious enough to need professional help, then seek it out.
Now, as a man though, I would like to encourage you ladies with at least my train of thought and what seems to be the common thinking from other men out there. We want you to not only be engaged while having sex, but to have some sexual self confidence while doing it! In other words, know that you turn your man on, be confident in what you want to do while having sex, and go for it knowing that you’re rocking his world!
Sometimes a plan helps with sexual self confidence
In public speaking, if you know your material thoroughly, you’re going to come off as confident while speaking. The same goes for sex. Think about what you’ve been doing recently during your sexual adventure. Think about the things that have turned you on the most. Think about the things that you’re potentially interested in doing but haven’t done yet. Maybe explore those things and think through how to bring them into the bed fold. For instance, many women have trouble achieving orgasm during sex. This is especially common after having a procedure such as a C-section. Maybe bringing a vibrator into the mix is something that you’d like to approach, but haven’t. In a future installment, we’ll explore how to introduce a vibrator into your sexual relationship in a healthy way, and bringing newfound adventure into your relationship without damaging feelings.
But the point is:
- Think about your sexual relationship
- Have a plan on how you would like to grow in your relationship
- Have sexual self confidence while leading your relationship in that direction
- Enjoy the fruits of your labor
And Men – in all things, be encouraging to your wife, never negative or down-putting. This extends beyond the bedroom also. You can destroy years of relationship building in a few negative comments.
Ladies – go forth with sexual self confidence and know that you are attractive, loved, sexy, and wonderful.