Ladies, your sexual history and your guys sex history are de gran importancia. Below we’ll give you questions to ask before having sex.
STI’s are real! Can you remember back to when you were in 7th grade health class and your health educator shared the STI slideshow? Back then that may have been enough to stop you from engaging in sexual activity, but unfortunately, some where along the way people go against common sense and engage with sexual activity with a partner or many partners without asking some important questions first.
Here will give you a guide of questions to ask:
You might start off by talking about how you care about your partner and because of that you want to be honest with him and you expect him to be honest with you. You also might mention that you feel you’re both mature enough to discuss this topic and you don’t intend to judge him with this information, but rather its to protect each other. It might be awkward at first, but it’s really better in the long run so…
- Are you a virgin?
- What sexual activity have you engaged in? Sexual intercourse? Oral sex?
- Have you come in contact with someone else’s genitals?
- How many partners have you had?
- Do you know how many partners you’re partners have had?
- Do you know if any of your partners had any sexually transmitted diseases?
- Are you aware of having any symptoms of sexually transmitted diseases?
- Has there ever been a time when you’ve passed out from drinking and suspect you may have engaged in sexual activity? Please watch your alcohol consumption, it’s for your safety!
- Did you use a condom every time you engaged in sexual intercourse?
- How did you protect yourself from transmission of STIs during oral sex?
- How long were you in each relationship before engaging in sexual activity?
- What commitment level are you expecting from me before we engage in sexual activity?
This list is not exhaustive, but should help you along with the conversation. We sure hope you put thought into your relationship, feel safe enough to disclose this information with your partner, and consider the consequences if either of you are not completely honest with one another. Hopefully, your partner is being honest, but the only way to know with 100% certainty is by getting medical test results.
Health officials decided to rename sexually transmitted diseases to sexually transmitted infections because many sexually transmitted infections are lifelong, meaning there are no known cure for them. Luckily symptoms can be managed with proper care. Below we’ll share the most common STIs and a link to the Mayo Clinic for additional information. If you haven’t been sexually active with anyone and have remained abstinent then that’s great news! On the other hand, if you’ve had even one sexual partner we would recommend asking for STI testing for yourself and for your future partner.
Now, we’ll provide links for each common STIs.