Best Clit Stimulator: Favorite New Sex Toy

There is a whole new breed of sex toy that has come on the market over the last few years. The sex toy industry has not completely come to terms with exactly what to call these clitoral pleasure devices. Some call them sonic wave stimulators. Elsewhere they are air pressure stimulators or “clit suckers”. For us, we’re just going to call them Clit Stimulators, which is fairly generic. But we are so impressed with how good these are! Below is a comprehensive list of the Clit Stimulators on the market and our selection of the best clit stimulator available.

What are clit stimulators and how to they feel?

The Original and still the best clit stimulator: Womanizer

Best Clit Stimulator: Womanizer

The original clit stimulator was the Womanizer. Perhaps they would have completely captured the clit stimulator market if they had chosen a better name than something that sounds degrading to women. It was likely named by a guy. Talk about bad brand futureproofing!

You can’t find the original version any longer, but you have your choice between the less expensive Womanizer Pro 40, the Womanizer Pro, the Womanizer 2Go, and the Womanizer Plussize for larger ladies who have trouble reaching their clit comfortably with sex toys.

The Womanizer was the original, and it’s the most expensive, besides the Lelo product. But it’s still the best in our opinion. A close second though is the Satisfyer Pro 2, which we would highly recommend to anyone reading this.

The Best Clit Stimulator for your Money: The Satisfyer!!!

Satisfyer Pro 2 Next Generation
The best clit stimulation you’ll get for your money is the Satisfyer Pro 2 Next Generation! Satisfyer was not the original clit stimulator on the market, but Satisfyer has been the most innovative and adaptive to the market. We have been incredibly impressed with the Satisfyer Pro 2 Next Generation! This is the best clit stimulator in our opinion for what you are spending – especially in the bathtub! You’re better off buying one of these and spending the extra money on a few sexy costumes than buying the much more expensive Womanizer.

There are also a few other Satisfyer models to choose from:

  • Satisfyer Pro Penguin, which we thought was pretty odd and not nearly as good as the Pro 2
  • Satisfyer 2, which is pretty similar to the Satisfyer Pro 2, but it’s battery operated and less expensive.  You’ll end up liking the clit stimulator so much that you’re going to spend more on batteries than you are going to save on the price difference.
  • Satisfyer Pro Deluxe Next Gen, which isn’t quite as nicely designed as the Satisfyer Pro 2 Next Gen.  We prefer the nicer handle and the extended head for more precise navigation of this clit stimulator.  HOWEVER, we do like that the head is more condensed so that if you’re using it during intercourse, then your partner can get closer during their thrusting.

The Most Stylish Clit Stimulator: The Lelo Sona Cruise!!!

Lelo Sona Cruise

The most stylish looking clit stimulator comes from the high-end and well-respected sex toy company, Lelo. The Lelo Sona is powerful and also has a feature they are building into all of their product lines, the Cruise feature. Cruise essentially saves some of the power of the device for when you are close to orgasm and you start to press your vibrator or the Sona clit stimulator harder against your clit. Some devices can lose power when they are pressed harder against you, so it’s a differentiating little feature

To us though, the clit stimulator is for the bedroom (or the bathtub!), but if having a sexy-looking sex toy is important to you, the Lelo Sona may be the best clit stimulator for you!

If you’re looking for clit vibrators, you’ll want to check out our post on the best clit vibrators!

Most Lifelike Dildo: The Vixen Bandit!

We have crowned the most lifelike dildo of them all!  The Vixen Bandit!  He’s the winner!  If you’re looking for a well-endowed dildo that feels like the real thing, if not a little larger (and better) than real life, then this is the one to get!  Check out all the details below!

Most Lifelike Dildo: Perfect texture!

Flexible dildo! Mostly stiffy!Check out the pictures here! This dildo has it all.  First of all, the dual-density VixSkin material is pretty wonderful and realistic.  Check out the flex though: it’s a mostly-stiffy!  The core isn’t a rock solid hard-on, but more of a flexible boner.  This helps with the larger size of this dildo.  It is a little longer than the average penis, so the softer core won’t feel like it’s poking your cervix.  The head has a full half-inch of the softer outer material, so it cushions if you happen to “bottom out.”


Hairbands! Ouch! It's okay, it's not real...Wow, look at that cushion for the pushing!Also, check out the hair bands wrapped around this wonderous provider of satisfaction and stimulation. Those hair bands are fairly tight and you can see that they cause some indentation in the outer core. But they don’t squeeze halfway into the dildo. This is pretty funny, but I had my husband also perform the same wrapping with the hair bands while he had a hard on. The result was approximately the same give. That’s one key factor that makes the Bandit the most lifelike dildo – the outer skin and head are both amazingly lifelike.


Most Lifelike Dildo: Perfect size!

Slight upward curve!Look out below!He's long and strong!Look at that girth!
Well would you take a look at this beauty! In comparison to the Lelo Mona 2, it looks pretty large. Actually the girth is only slightly larger at the head than the Lelo Mona 2 at the head.  However, the base of  the Vixen Bandit gets a little more girthy as it goes down, so the base is pretty wide and wonderful.
Here are the “official specs”:

  • Length: 7.25 inches
  • Girth: 1.75 inches
  • Shape: Amazing

I’ll be honest – because the balls are so small, this dildo looks a little intimidating when it first shows up in the packaging. But when you take it out it’s so exciting that it feels just like a large penis in your hands!  I couldn’t stop shaking it and playing with it!


Okay, it looks great. But how lifelike does this dildo feel???

Wow!  Okay, I’ll admit, I was a little intimidated, but excited for my first time using the Bandit.  I had never held a dildo that felt just so amazing in my hands!  Plus, let’s face it – it was time to try something new. I’ll go into a little more detail in this description than I normally do, just because you need to understand just how wonderful and lifelike this dildo is.

How to properly warm up for a real penis or the most lifelike dildo ever

First, my husband and I set the mood.  First, a nice bubble bath all by myself (he set it up, got the temperature right, set up just two candles and some relaxing but sexy music – think Beyonce, Dance for You).  I took a shower first and shaved my legs and lady parts, then had my soak in the tub.  Then after drying off, he gave me a full body massage with some coconut oil and our Hitachi Magic Wand.  Then after warming up on externally on my clitoris and internally just a little with my wonderful Lelo Mona 2, and making sure the Vixen Bandit was lubed up with just a little coconut oil, I started gently letting just the head press against the opening while I used the Mona 2 on my clitoris.

Why do I into such detail?  Well, first of all, there’s a right way and a wrong way to go about trying a new sex toy for the first time.  You might not be in the proper mood, or you might be a little too excited and not properly relaxed.  You should always take your time and enjoy the foreplay, even if you’re playing by yourself!

Enjoy the feeling and lose yourself!

Now, where were we?  Oh, yes.  The head.  It took about 30 seconds of gentle pressure – for which I’m grateful for the flexibility and softness of the head – but then I let out a moan of pleasure when it went in!  IT IS SO NICE!  The texture is perfect – just the right amount of friction.  And the girth is completely wonderful.  After this, I restrained myself and slowly inserted it until it seemed the girth of the base was getting to be a little much at the opening.  I felt how much I had left to go, and could tell that there was still another 2 or 3 inches left!  This Vixen Bandit is an exciting challenge.

Then it’s very gentle, pleasurable thrusting time.  Slow at first, then picking up the pace.  Then joining in the beat with the music!  I think Nicki Minaj, Feeling Myself was playing, which was very appropriate at the time!  In any case, I realized at one point that even though I’m not a moaner, I couldn’t help express the pleasure verbally and started biting the pillow!  I also realized that the whole dildo was easily sliding in and out now, and the girth of the base felt fantastic!  I had lost track of the Mona 2 on my clitoris, but after another 5 to 10 minutes of thrusting, I decided to add that fantastic clitoral vibratior to the mix, and then I was no longer able to restrain myself from orgasming any further!

And to top it off – I had never done thing before, I promise – I suddenly felt a gush of liquid so that I had to pull out the Bandit!  Yes, the Vixen Bandit made me “squirt” for the very first time!  I didn’t think this was a real thing before now, but I had a large wet area on the bed!  Unbelievable.  I say this is the most lifelike dildo, but I think it’s better than real life.

Not Amazing Packaging for this “Package”!

No, the packaging isn’t amazing.  But it’s not complex either.The most lifelike dildo ever comes in the most boring package ever  You don’t need scissors and a welding torch to open it.  The box it comes in is just a plain cardboard box, and the shipping address was something very generic.  You’re not getting a package from “Dildos, Inc.”

But honestly, who cares!  This dildo is amazing!  I don’t say that about every sex toy we review here.  If you’re shopping for a dildo, do yourself a favor and buy this one.  I don’t think you’ll ever need another.

A HUGE THANKS to our friends at Vixen Creations for creating the most lifelike dildo ever, but also a huge thanks for sending us one for this review.  The sales team there is fantastic and incredibly responsive!  If you want to buy one direct from them, here’s the link to the Vixen Bandit.  However, it’s about $50 less expensive on Amazon here with three different varieties to choose from:

“Take me home! Make love to me! You won’t regret it!!! Get one for your best friend too!  I make a great stocking stuffer, balls out!”

Best Clitoral Vibrator: Our Top 5 Clit Vibrators!

What Clitoral Vibrator should I buy???

You’ve come to the right place.  Over the last few weeks we’ve gone on an adventure of trying to find the best clitoral vibrator on the market.  We didn’t try any of the cheapo vibrators you’ll find on Amazon because we have a minimum standard of quality.  We also only trust our lady parts (and yours!) to products that are guaranteed to not have any chemicals that may cause irritation or an allergic reaction.  However, that doesn’t mean we only reviewed expensive products!  In fact, our top clitoral vibrator is less than $50.  Interested in learning more?

Below we’ve provided a summary of the clitoral vibrators we reviewed. Eventually we will do detailed reviews for each.  With that, may we present…

The Overall Best Clitoral Vibrator: The We-Vibe Tango!

We-vibe Tango
The We-Vibe Tango has been our favorite clitoral vibrator for a long time.  Simply put, it’s just the most power-packed vibrator out there.  It puts the vibration to the max right where you want it.  Here are the things we love about the We-Vibe Tango:

It’s not crazy expensive!

Since when did we have to shell out $100 for a good time?  I don’t want to have to decide whether to have “legs squeezing together” orgasm that leaves my clit too sensitive to even wear underwear or whether I should buy groceries.  For the We-Vibe Tango though, if it came to that, I think I would eat package ramen for a week.  But the best thing here is that you can pick this up right around $50!  Really, in a market packed with expensive sex toys, this really stands out in terms of pleasure and value.

It’s the most powerful!

Let’s face it: sometimes you need to bring the speed.  You’re tired from the week and you just want to fall asleep after a quick 5-minute clitoral stimulation session.  Somehow We-Vibe managed to pack the most powerful clitoral vibrator into a small package that efficiently delivers right where you want it.

It’s dual-purpose!

The We-Vibe is actually a small insertable sex toy that packs a punch inside and out.  Even though this is a review focused on clitoral vibrators, an insertable vibrator won top prize.  Who knew that was possible?  We actually like that it has a longer handle because sometimes not having a hand in the way allows for some better penetration.


The Best Clitoral Vibrator for Stimulaton: The Womanizer Pro!

Womanizer Pro

The Womanizer Pro is a newer clitoral stimulator that we just had the great pleasure of experiencing for the first time.  It’s not technically a clitoral vibrator at all – it’s actually intended to be a sort of simulator for oral sex.  But there’s no oral sex that anyone has given that’s like what the Womanizer does!  This clitoral stimulator actually uses air to provide alternating pressure amounts to the clitoris, which causes an amazing feeling without anything actually pressing directly on the clitoris.  It’s pretty amazing and genius.  In a time where there are so many different types of vibrators on the market, this is a truly different approach.  It’s already being copied by other knock off’s.

It’s pretty expensive!

However, as you’ve probably already noticed, the Womanizer Pro is pretty expensive.  It used to be over $200, but since the Womanizer Pro40 came out at a lower price point with basically the same features, it put downward pressure on the price of the original Pro W400 model.  So even though it’s “only” around $124 at the time of this writing, it’s still about three times as expensive as the We-Vibe Tango.  The Womanizer is good.  But three times as good?  Probably not.

But it’s completely new!

If you already have a couple “normal” vibrators and want something new, the Womanizer Pro will add some excitement to your sex life!  It’s a brand new feeling, which doesn’t come along very often in sex!

Use some lube

Recommendation: This works SO much better if you have a little lube.  Try just a little coconut oil right on your clitoris and just move the head around slightly once you find your sweet spot.  You’ll have an unbelievable climax in no time!!!

Another Excellent option for a Clitoral Vibrator: The Womanizer Pro40!

Womanizer Pro40
The Womanizer Pro40 is essentially the same idea as the original Womanizer Pro W400.  It still has the same revolutionary stimulation technique, but the delivery method is different.  Previously I would have written that the Pro40 is significantly less expensive than the original.  However, as of this writing, they’re about the same price on Amazon.

Differences from the original

The Womanizer Pro40 is a nicer, smaller form than the original model.  I have small hands, so this fits very nicely in my hand and is more comfortable to use.  It also has 8 levels of power, whereas the original model only had 5.  I don’t really need the additional levels of power.  The max power of both models is about the same.  And the interface for the Pro40 changed from the power slider selector in the original model to a push button power-up and power-down.  The power-up and power-down works fine, but I wish I didn’t need to press it so many times to get it to the max!

Our Favorite Clitoral Vibrator for Multi-Use: The Lelo Mona 2!

Lelo Mona 2 G-Spot Vibrator
We LOVE our Lelo Mona 2. It’s one of our favorite g-spot vibrators.  It’s not our absolute favorite g-spot vibrator (that would be the Jimmyjane Form 6), but this one does a much better job in terms of also being an absolutely amazing clitoral vibrator.  The shape of the head isn’t completely round – it’s tapers down to more of a rounded point, which is perfect for placing right on the clitoris.  It’s also very powerful, though not as powerful as the We-Vibe Tango.  It’s also more than three times as expensive as the Tango.  However, it’s much better as an insertable g-spot vibrator than the Tango, I still consider it a great purchase.

The Clitoral Vibrator Dedicated your Clitoral Orgasm: The We-Vibe Touch!

wevibe touch
The last entry for this review is the We-Vibe Touch!  The Touch is the most traditional clitoral vibrator on this list.  It has a shape that easily fits in your hand and is contoured to your g-spot very well.  As normal, there are different power levels for the We-Vibe Touch, just like all other vibrators, but the vibration on this one feels significantly higher-quality than other clitoral vibrators.  It’s more of a rumbly vibe than most others, particularly bullet vibes.  The Touch feels more rumbly than the Tango, partially because the Tango is more of a mini-vibe.  It’s also pretty inexpensive – in the same ball park as the Tango.

So why isn’t the Touch at the top of the list then?

The We-Vibe Touch didn’t top the list here because it’s just not quite as powerful as the Tango.  The charging station is also kind of clunky and didn’t stay connected when I needed it to.  But if you’re not a power queen and you like more of that rumbly sensation that shakes the whole clitoris, go for the Touch.

So, what clitoral vibrator should I buy?

If you’re looking for a purely clitoral vibrator, go with the We-Vibe Tango.  The Tango is mind blowing power directed right at the nerve center of the clitoris for mind-blowing Nirvana that leaves you unable to move after you pry your legs apart.

If you’re looking for something completely new, already have a vibrator or five, and can afford to purchase something a little more expensive, go with the Womanizer.  Either model is fantastic and will leave all of your other sex toys in the drawer for a long time.

If you need just one sex toy to rule them all, go with the Lelo Mona 2.  It’s close to being as good of a clitoral vibrator as the We-Vibe Tango, and we have never needed more power to achieve a great orgasm.  It’s also the g-spot vibrator that will leave your vagina clenched around it asking for more until it can’t handle any more.  So the Mona 2 wins the multi-purpose award!

Hitachi Magic Wand Massager Review

Hitachi Magic Wand Massager Review

The Hitachi Magic Wand

Our hopes for the Hitachi Magic Wand were very high.  We had heard and read many great things about it, so we decided to buy one for ourselves and do a review on it.  You’ll see in this review that there are some amazing things about the Hitachi Magic Wand, and some things that didn’t stack up to our expectations.  Overall, it’s a great purchase and one that we wouldn’t change our minds about.  But it’s not for everyone.

Which Hitachi Magic Wand should I get?

If you’ve been looking for a Hitachi Magic Wand, there are a couple options out there on Amazon – the original, less expensive, plug-in model and the more expensive rechargeable model:

Being a professional sex health blogger, we decided to go with both the original and the rechargeable Hitachi Magic Wand. A while back, Hitachi decided they did not want to be associated with what had become a wildly popular sex toy / personal massager, so they sold the rights to manufacture it to another company, Vibratex. All of the “Original” Hitachi Magic Wand massagers out there are not really made by Hitachi any longer unless you find one that’s about 20 years old.

Differences between the Original and the Rechargeable Hitachi Magic Wand

In any case, there are some advantages of both models:

  • The rechargeable model is, of course, cordless.  The original model actually comes with a very short, permanently attached cord.  Use a small extension cord to extend the cord length.  The cord is also a minor distraction / nuisance as it’s draping across your partner’s body.
  • The rechargeable Hitachi Magic Wand does have a cord for charging.  The rechargeable model doesn’t need to be fully charged to be used, unlike other vibrators.  If you run out of battery, you can still use it plugged in.  Though, the cord is still fairly short.
  • Several of the “original” Hitachi Magic Wand models come with a regular light dimmer switch.  This is because the controls on the original model do not provide a lot of variability in the power.  The dimmer switch essentially provides a reduction in the electric current flow to reduce the power.  From what we have noticed, though it’s a fairly janky solution, this may actually be an advantage for those who can’t even tolerate the lowest power setting on the rechargeable model.
  • The rechargeable Hitachi Magic Wand has a different surface on the massager head.  The original model has a smoother plastic head that glides over the body more smoothly than the rechargeable model.  The rechargeable model switched to more of a texture that you would find on a normal high-end vibrator, which provides a little more friction.  However, that also means that it doesn’t glide very smoothly over non-lubricated skin, so you should plan on using a little lube if you would like to move it around.
  • The rechargeable Hitachi Magic Wand has a distracting bright blue LED light when it is turned on.  In a dark room, this light is rather blinding.  We covered it with dark tape.

So which one should I get?

So as you can tell, there are many differences between the two Hitachi Magic Wand models.  Based on the differences alone, we can’t tell which one we would recommend.  However, based on price, if you don’t mind the cord and the amateur solution of the light switch dimmer for power control, the original model is the one to go with.  Especially if you are rather sensitive in the clitoral area.  If you need some power and maneuverability, go with the rechargeable model.

Initial Impressions of the Hitachi Magic Wand

Despite the higher price point, this is not your typical luxury vibrator unboxing with a velvet carrying case and fancy packaging.  The Hitachi Magic Wand comes in a rather plain box with a picture of the vibrator on the outside as the main feature.  Who cares about the box though?  I certainly don’t.  The box and the instructions book immediately went in the garbage.  I care about how good the product is.

Hitachi Magic Wand Review - box


We immediately plugged it in to get a sense of the power that this thing was supposed to have.  Wow.  We have several vibrators.  This thing felt like comparing a jackhammer to a small kitchen coffee grinder.  It’s a little intimidating, even on the lowest setting.

But then we left it plugged in for a few hours to see if it still had that kind of power when running just on the battery.  It did.  When it’s fully charged, there’s no difference between it running on the battery or running while plugged in.

Hitachi Magic Wand Review - unboxing

Hitachi Magic Wand Review: Is it good in bed?

Packaging, initial impressions, style, etc. These are all fine for setting expectations and the mood. But how does the Hitachi Magic Wand actually feel? That’s the million dollar question.

Honestly, there are two issues with the Hitachi Magic Wand. First, it is simply too powerful for me, even on the lowest setting. Perhaps I’m blessed with a sensitive clitoris, but the rechargeable version is too strong. However, it is pretty nice to use with my favorite lube, some coconut oil, around the outside of the outer labia to help those vaginal muscles relax. This also helps to provide some buffer from the deep rumbly vibrations so that the power is not directly applied to the clitoris.  This is why some reviewers say that many ladies choose to use the Hitachi Magic Wand on top of their panties.

On the flip side, after getting properly warmed up and using the dimmer switch with the original model and setting it to the lowest setting, the sensation is pleasurable when applied around and directly on the clitoris.  The smoother texture of the head also allows the head to glide a little nicer as well.  However, we would definitely recommend getting warmed up first.

If you’re interested in this, this is the dimmer switch we purchased:

The other factor is that for us, the head shape of the Hitachi Magic Wand just wasn’t quite as nice as the shape of other vibrators such as the Lelo Mona 2. The smaller head allows you to pinpoint the vibration right to the sweet spot of the clitoris. However, some women also totally rave about the wand head shape because it’s able to provide stimulation to clitoris, inner and outer labia, and deep inside – all at once.

Bonus features of the Hitachi Magic Wand!

At the beginning of this review I said that we would still recommend purchasing the Hitachi Magic Wand, even though it’s not our favorite clit vibrator. It is still a great purchase because it is a wonderful full body massager! How about that. It’s original purpose is still its best strength. We have been really taking advantage of using coconut oil for massaging before sex. See 6 Reasons to use Coconut Oil as Lube AND Massage Oil. The Hitachi Magic Wand takes this to the next level. On the larger muscle groups, the deep vibrations are absolutely incredible. The Hitachi Magic Wand gives deep vibrations into your larger muscles that hands simply can’t replicate. 15 minutes of coconut oil and the deep vibrations will turn you into a limber relaxed sex machine ready to take on sexual adventures you have only dreamed of!

Hitachi Magic Wand - unboxed

Hitachi Magic Wand: Our Summary

Even though the Hitachi Magic Wand is not our favorite clitoral massager, it has many possibilities.  The actual massage capability has opened up new excitement in our sexual relationship.  There are also many attachments such as the ones in the link below that are exciting possibilities. One day we will purchase some of these attachments and write another review for them. Until then, consider if the Hitachi Magic Wand is the right vibrator for you! If you purchase one, let us know what you think!

Tantus Uncut 1 Review: Our Favorite!

The Tantus Uncut 1 is our favorite dildo at Women and Sexuality! It’s made of the Tantus dual density O2 material that makes it very realistic.  The Uncut #1 is also our favorite for several other reasons though…

Tantus uncut 1 review

Perfect Size!

The Tantus Uncut 1 is a wonderful size. Frankly, it was just a little intimidating when first removing it from the packaging. But that is also what made it exciting! It’s not too intimidating. At 7.45 inches in length, this beauty will gently fill almost any lady very pleasantly. Also, at 1.75 inches in girth, it takes some warming up to get used to, but once you have the first inch in, the rest of it goes oh so smooth… You’ll feel yourself fill up with a wonderful, incredibly realistic fullness that will have your toes curling. This is about the largest in dildo size that we prefer and recommend to most ladies. You won’t be uncomfortable. Just be excited, make sure you have some good foreplay, and the Uncut #1 will bring you to an exciting orgasm, especially with some clitoral stimulation added in.


The Tantus Uncut 1 is shaped like an uncircumcised penis!  Really!  It’s pretty realistic looking, but frankly, it’s mostly a gimmick as the foreskin doesn’t retract like a real uncircumcised penis.   But, as far as dildos go, it’s the most realistic uncut penis that we’ve seen, so A for effort!  There is one attribute about this that is pretty cool though – some ladies don’t really enjoy the feeling of full withdrawl and insertion of a dildo because of the head “pop”, especially with a more rigid dildo.  You won’t have that problem with the Tantus Uncut 1.

The shape goes beyond the foreskin though – the Uncut has a gentle g spot stimulation curve that makes it incredibly pleasurable.  The top half inch of the dildo is mostly the soft outer layer, so it massages gently but firmly with no poking feeling against your vaginal wall.

Realistic in an exciting fantasy way!

Most guys won’t be able to match up to the Tantus Uncut 1.  At almost 7.5 inches long and 1.75 inches in girth, it is at the upper end of penis sizes without being classified as a “Large” dildo that would make most ladies uncomfortable.  But if you could have that well-endowed man with a great penis shape that filled you in just the right way, the Tantus Uncut 1 would be that dream penis.

6 Reasons to Use Coconut Oil as Lube and as Massage Oil

6 Reasons to Use Coconut Oil as Lube and as Massage Oil

Looking for that perfect massage oil that works both for massaging and for sex? Well look no further – coconut oil is the solution! “Cononut oil as lube? Really? I was thinking something like Astroglide or KY or something, Bobby…” No. Trust me, if there’s one thing you do today that will improve your sex life, please, please buy some good quality coconut oil, preferably the suggested ones at the links below, and try coconut oil as lube the next time you have sex!!

Still don’t believe me? Here are six sex reasons you should use coconut oil as lube… and as a massage oil!

coconut oil as lube and sex massage oil

Reason 1: You can use coconut oil as lube AND as a massage oil!

Say you want to start out your sex time together with a massage to lighten things up and get things moving… but hold on – you can’t use most massage oil for sex!  That’s right – you can rub his or her back and legs, but then you have to wash your hands and switch lubricants to something like Astroglide… and that throws the whole sexual vibe off.

Coconut oil is perfect for  the FULL BODY massage, and when you get into massaging that inner thigh area, you don’t have to be careful to keep it out of her vagina or off of his penis… Enjoy a nice butt massage?  Coconut oil is perfect!  Transition straight from massaging back to legs to bum, right into some great, relaxed lubricated sex!  Really, coconut oil is the only solution we’ve found that you can use for everything.

But what about using a personal sex lubricant for massaging?  Well that’s okay, but with the amount you’re going to use, it will get pretty expensive using Astroglide or KY for a full body massage.  Plus there’s reason 2…

Reason 2: Coconut oil doesn’t leave a residue on your skin!

The real drawback is that Astroglide or KY weren’t meant for full body massaging and will leave a residue on your skin.  Who wants to have to take a shower after sex to rinse off the residue?  Don’t you want to just fall into a wonderfully exhausted and satisfied sleep?  The same issue applies when you are using lots of lotion for a massage – at some point the lotion will start to cause a buildup because you need to keep applying it.

Coconut oil doesn’t leave a residue.  It’s actually really good for your skin and hair!  So … triple purpose … sex lubricant, massage oil, skin moisturizer!  Awesome.  When you start to use it, remember to come back here and write a comment to thank me 🙂

Reason 3: It’s inexpensive!

That’s right… coconut oil is incredibly inexpensive.  For $20, you can have enough coconut oil for a LOT of massaging!  You could spend $15 for 3 oz of KY Touch 2-in-1, or you could spend $15 for 30 oz of coconut oil that will perform better and last longer… the math is pretty easy to me!

Reason 4: Coconut oil is all natural and safe to use

Coconut oil has been shown to be safe for sex, and thousands of people use it regularly.  From everyone we have talked to and from everything we have read on the topic, coconut oil is the best all-natural product out there that is safe for sex.  This is the main hurdle for many people – using something that’s not branded like KY.  But from all of the accounts out there, using pure virgin coconut oil is a great alternative to the name brands.  Here’s the kicker – it’s anti-bacterial and anti-fungal.  Really.  No need to keep it in the frig or toss it after 2 weeks.

Edit: Because there was so much interest in this subject, we did a further review of the safety of coconut oil for vaginal use.

Reason 5: Coconut oil lasts forever – no need to keep applying

The issue with using a water-based lubricant is that it’s WATER-based… that means the water evaporates, leaving a residue from the other products added to the water, and you need to keep applying more and more of it.  This is the same issue with using lotion for massages.

Coconut oil just keeps lubricating and lubricating… Once you have your wife’s legs or back or butt or breasts covered in coconut oil, there’s no need to keep going back for more!  Just keep massaging while listening to some Robin Thicke…

Reason 6: Coconut oil is great for your skin

Your skin needs oils.  It has natural oils that are lost when using soap in the hot shower or bath.  Coconut oil really helps replace some of those natural skin oils.  Did we say it’s good for your hair too?  Yes, that’s right – skin, hair, private parts, everything!


So have I convinced you yet?  I wouldn’t write this enthusiastically for something that doesn’t work well.  Using coconut oil as lube has really opened up a whole new dimension on sex for us, and we recommend it to our close friends and family.  Here are a couple products on Amazon that we really have tried and recommend:

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Best G-Spot Vibrator: JimmyJane Form 6 Review

Best G-Spot Vibrator: JimmyJane Form 6 Review

Question: What is the best g-spot vibrator of all the g-spot vibrators on the market?

Answer: The JimmyJane Form 6.  Read our Ultimate G-Spot Vibrator Review for the comparison between this one and 4 others.  In this post, we will provide a more detailed JimmyJane Form 6 review and talk through all of the amazing things about this product, along with the few things that we would change about it.

The JimmyJane Form 6

So what is so great about this thing that makes it the best g-spot vibrator?  Let’s skip right past the packaging – that’s not amazing like the Lelo products.  But who cares about the packaging –  who buys a vibrator for the box?  Let’s talk about this vibrator itself:


The JimmyJane Form 6 is made of medical grade silicone.  It’s totally hypoallergenic, so anyone like me who has sensitive skin – or just generally cares what materials are used sexually – should have no problem with the materials on this vibrator.  But that’s not what makes it the best g-spot vibrator.  What does is the slight drag on the silicone that helps to create some friction while the vibrator is in use.  One of the reasons that condoms are terrible is that you don’t get that natural friction that comes from a penis.  This is one of the best vibrator materials that I have seen that helps to create this natural feeling.  It doesn’t come close to the real thing and I’ll take my husband’s penis any day of the week, but the material on the JimmyJane Form 6 is pretty great, especially when compared with others on the market.


This is the other main factor that makes the JimmyJane Form 6 the best g-spot vibrator on the market.  There is a motor in both ends, and both ends can be used internally, which is pretty awesome.  It is pretty great to have a single sex toy where you can use the smaller end for g-spot stimulation, especially due to it’s higher curve on this side, then flip it over and use the longer wider end for some deeper penetration and friction action.

Girth and Shape

Another great attribute about the JimmyJane Form 6 is it’s size.  The smaller end is pretty easy to start out with since it has a smaller circumference, but once you are excited and used to the smaller end, the girth of the wider end takes an exciting several seconds to get used to.

The JimmyJane Form 6 is also the vibrator in this high-end vibrator class that most closely resembles a penis shape.  It’s not perfectly round, and it doesn’t have a flattened head.  It’s more shaped like a very rounded triangle, similar to a fully erect penis shaft.  For that, it gets top marks.


The controls are the one thing that I would change about this vibrator.  Though it is nice to have the control buttons hidden so that the toy can be used double-sided, the intensity buttons and the pattern buttons are actually on the larger end of the toy.  The buttons are indicated by slight raised symbols in the material, which are pushed down on.  While in use, sometimes it is challenging to find these buttons.  The pattern buttons are even more challenging to find since they’re found vertically on the shaft.  Once you get this bad girl in, you don’t really want to take it out to fiddle around with the controls before reinserting.

What would be ideal is if there was a separate control, similar to the Lelo Tiani 24k


So, we think the JimmyJane Form 6 is the best g-spot vibrator out on the market today, despite the difficult controls.  It’s pretty expensive, but you get what you pay for in this case.  What do you think?  Leave your comments below!

Here is a link to the best offer I have seen for the JimmyJane Form 6:

The Ultimate G-Spot Vibrator Review!

How to you choose the best g-spot vibrator? There are so many g-spot vibrators on the market today.  How are you supposed to choose between them?  We decided to create a comprehensive g-spot vibrator review to help choose from among the various options.  It’s not like you can try one on and ask for a different size like they were a pair of pants.  No one wants to visit that consignment shop.

For the purposes of this blog, we will only focus on g-spot vibrators and not rabbit vibrators, which are the dual-action vibes massaging the g-spot and the clitoris at the same time.  The Ultimate Rabbit Vibrator Review will be coming soon…

Which g-spot vibrator is the best on the market?

Let’s start with eliminating 90% of the g-spot vibrators right off the bat.  You do not want anything made with cheap materials that are potentially hazardous, irritating, or allergenic.  If your approach so far has been to walk into a Spencer Gifts (been there!) or Walgreens and find one that looks okay, you’re doing it all wrong.  However, that doesn’t mean you need to spend $200 for a good g-spot vibrator!

For this review, I’m going to focus on the top 5 g-spot vibrators (in my opinion), covering several brands and styles.  The list below is not in order of preference just yet, just the order in which the vibrators were reviewed:
JimmyJane Form 6 G-Spot Vibrator

JimmyJane FORM 6

The JimmyJane Form 6 looks kind of like a small bent bowling pin (but much smaller)!  Both sides are usable internally and externally, and I find that after a nice warmup with the smaller side, the larger side is pretty wonderful.  The head of the Form 6 is actually the largest in diameter of any of the toys on this list, and you will notice the difference.  I also noticed that the JimmyJane Form 6 has the strongest vibration of all of them – potentially due to the larger size being able to pack more punch.

The dual motors also seem to give it significantly more consistent vibration, rather than just at one end of the toy.  However, this can lead to a little bit of numb-hand after a session – a small price to pay for a powerful orgasm.

I have seen different stats about the insertable length of the Form 6, but it seems to be a little under 5 inches, and you notice the difference between it and the Lelo Mona 2.
Je Joue G-Kii G-Spot Vibrator

Je Joue G-Kii

If you have never found your g-spot before, hold on and get ready for some involuntary toe-curling and leg squeezing orgasms!  The G-Kii is the queen of finding and massaging your g-spot, no matter your anatomy or body type.  As you can see in the picture, the key feature of the Je Joue G-Kii (a tongue twister if there ever was one) can be adjusted to several different shapes to meet your anatomy.  Just try one and if you aren’t satisfied, curve some more and try again!  This entry sort of breaks the rule for this review of g-spot-only vibrators, because the G-Kii can actually be fully bent in half to provide clitoral stimulation as well, though I wasn’t terribly impressed with that ability and would rather just use a clit-specific vibrator while using this at the same time.

Lelo Gigi 2 G-Spot Vibrator

Lelo Gigi 2

The Lelo Gigi 2 is specifically designed to reach your g-spot.  It is absolutely wonderful, though as with all of Lelo’s products, it is rather expensive.  The Gigi is smaller than the Mona, and the flattened head is designed to be specifically pressed against the g-spot whereas most of the other toys here have significantly more volume.  If you are newer to toys or are rather on the small side, you may want to consider the Gigi 2 first because some of the others can be rather uncomfortable if you’re a newcomer.

The Lelo Gigi 2 is also slightly shorter than the other toys here at a little under 4 inches of insertable length.  It’s not intended to be a thrusting-type dildo-vibe, but a g-spot specific massager, which it does a terrific job at.

As a clitoral vibrator, the Gigi is probably the second-best of the five here, next to the Lelo Mona 2.
Lelo Mona 2 G-Spot Vibrator

Lelo Mona 2

The Lelo Mona 2 as described in my previous review is my favorite g-spot vibrator from Lelo.  It has a larger bulb top, which after I’m warmed up after some clitoral stimulation slides gently in with a very nice filling feeling.  The Mona 2’s size and shape differentiate it from the Gigi 2 significantly.  Because of the shape of the head, it gives the user some room for thrusting while keeping in contact with the g-spot.  Once you are really into it, the shape of the head also allows you to pull it out most of the way, giving you that nice stretching feeling toward the bottom of your vagina before you slide it back in – if you like that sort of thing.

The Mona 2 isn’t the longest of the vibrators being reviewed, though it’s respectable at about 4.3 inches of insertable length, which is plenty for me.
Je Joue Uma G-Spot Vibrator

Je Joue Uma

Je Joue is a little less known than some of the larger brands like Lelo, but they are no newcomer, and they have done a pretty outstanding job with their products.  The Uma has a pretty similar shape as the JimmyJane Form 6, though it is not quite as large and only one side is intended for use.

The Je Joue Uma also gives you a significantly larger handle to hold onto than the JimmyJane Form 6.  It is less tapered than the Form 6, so it slides more comfortably.

If you are looking for a first g-spot toy, I would recommend either the Je Joue Uma or the Lelo Gigi 2.


How this G-Spot Vibrator Review was Done

I didn’t feel like previous experience with these vibrators or using them individually in separate sessions was going to do justice to the review and comparison.  After all, moods, time of day, exhaustion, and a multitude of factors can impact any individual sex session.  So I decided to have one session where I used all 5 vibrators in order to have as close to a “side-by-side” comparison as possible.

I loosened up with a bubble bath soak in the tub to prepare myself for the onslaught of vibrations ahead and get my head relieved from any other thoughts so my mind was solely on the wonderful task at hand.  I dictated some notes to my hubby bubby who faithfully jotted them down as we went, as well as his own observations.  Frankly, I think he enjoyed the show!


The results

This approach to the g-spot vibrator review was both the most wonderful and the most frustrating idea ever.  I won’t go into the details of the review experience, since those intimate details are for my hubby alone, but I will let you know that I was able to try all 5 each a few times (but just barely) in the same session before finally letting my favorite of the group take me over the edge.  So which toy won???

(Note: Artistic license taken while writing this review)


Here are my top 5 in order:

  1. JimmyJane FORM 6
  2. Je Joue G-Kii
  3. Lelo Mona 2
  4. Lelo Gigi 2
  5. Je Joue Uma

In the end, after trying each of these side by side, the JimmyJane FORM 6 took the crown as the winner!  The larger size, rumbly and high intensity was just a level above the rest of the group, though each toy is incredibly enjoyable.  It is the most expensive g-spot vibrator in the group, but not by much from the Amazon links below.  You really can’t go wrong when buying any of these top of the line toys, but you can definitely go wrong by purchasing a cheaper toy.  And when you end up using it about 500 times, you’ll realize it was worth it to spring for the higher quality.

Here are some links to where to purchase each of these on Amazon, which I would highly recommend versus buying from the manufacturers since Amazon has lower prices and faster, free shipping.

So what do you think of our g-spot vibrator review?  Please let us know in the comments below!

Edit: also check out our review of our top 5 clitoral vibrators!

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Lelo Lily 2 Review – Clitoral Vibrator

Lelo Lily 2 Review – Clitoral Vibrator

Description of the Lily 2: 

The primary purpose of this gadget is to stimulate the clitoris while engaging in solo play or while your spouse’s penis is inserted inside your vagina. It’s a great addition to regular intercourse and only adds to the pleasurable sensations your lady is able to achieve during lovemaking. There are 8 different vibration patterns to explore, and it even comes in a waterproofed material in case you want to test it out in water. Currently, there are three colors to chose from to fit your liking.

Who the Lily 2 Might Be For: 

This attractive and easy to use gadget will be a worthwhile investment to keep your flames of love burning. You may not have as much time as you’d both like for foreplay or you just don’t have the energy for a long love making session, but the desire to stay connected physically is still there. The Lelo Lily 2 is a perfect solution! For tired couples who still value a healthy and fun sex life, but are simply exhausted at the end of the day from having an infant in the home, from fatigue that comes from getting a bit older, or some who need a “release” while her spouse travels weeks or months at a time, please try this product. It will not disappoint!

What We Liked About It: 

The Lelo Lily 2 has really allowed us to maintain regular physical intimacy during a stage of life that is so demanding of our energy and time. The clitoral vibrator helped us when we didn’t have time for foreplay, which is pretty essential for myself as a woman, in building up to achieve an orgasm. This product allowed me to experience the amazing stimulation provided by my husband’s penis against my g-spot while simultaneously having my clitoris stimulated. What an amazing addition to our sex life! One day we hope to get back to the more intimate and personal oral foreplay, but for now this is really helpful 🙂

Where To Get It: 

You can buy it online at Lelo. Here’s the link:

LELO Lily 2 Personal Massager


Lelo Tiani 24k Review

Lelo Tiani 24k Review

Description of the Lelo Tiani 24k:

The Lelo Tiani 24k is a huge step up from the previous iteration, the Tiani 3, which we have also reviewed.  This is the fourth attempt at the couples vibrator from Lelo over a pretty short time period, so obviously they think there’s a solid market here and they want to compete with We-Vibe.

The Tiani 24k is very similar to the previous iterations.  It is still meant to be worn the same way, with the smaller side inserted into the vagina and the larger side against the clit.  The arm bends with reasonable pressure, so it is fairly easy to insert while still applying a decent amount of pressure against the g-spot as well as against the clitoris.

If you haven’t worn a couples vibrator before, be prepared for it to take some getting used to.  Our first time, my wife needed me to take it a little slower while I inserted my penis because she’s used to only my penis girth while the Tiani 24k adds some extra volume.  A little goes a long way here.

The key difference between the Tiani 24k and the Tiani 3 is the dual motor.  There is actually a motor for the insertable side of the toy that vibrates directly against the g-spot.  This is a HUGE difference between the new version and the previous version of the Tiani.  Worn alone, the vibrations with the pressure that the arm provides are decent.  However, once I inserted my penis, the additional pressure of the motorized arm against my wife’s g-spot made her arch her back and start moaning right away.  This may have been the fastest that she has ever orgasmed, even since our honeymoon.  This wasn’t quite the same experience with the Tiani 3 – the second motor really makes a difference.

So if you are considering which version of the Tiani to purchase or whether to purchase a We-Vibe, if you can pony up the additional funds, we would highly suggest the Tiani 24k over all of the other couples vibrators out there.

The gold band around the center of the toy and on the remote control are a nice touch, and my wife enjoys that it feels a little more classy than a big rubber dildo on the dresser!

The clitoral side of the Lelo Tiani 24k has a decent amount of power.  However, if you are using the “wife on her back with legs on hubby’s shoulders or hands while standing at the side of the bed” position, the clitoral side will be a little more well-positioned and more stable against the clit if she holds it in place.  However, this isn’t necessarily mandatory, leaving you free to have her hands tied to the bedposts if you choose!

The Lelo Tiani 24k also allows you to do the “doggy style” without needing to hold a vibrator in place on your clit, which can lead to a more comfortable pose there.  It seems less comfortable when she needs to have one arm reaching back to her vagina to hold the clitoral vibrator there, and it’s tough for me as the guy to reach around while also concentrating on thrusting deep.

The remote is decently designed and it’s nice to have it accessible to either of us to increase the vibrations as we go along.  It’s also nice to be able to have the remote stationary on the bed or the nightstand, rather than needing to find the buttons on the toy itself.  However, as with most of the other Lelo vibrators we have used, we find little use for the other vibration patterns.  The SenseMotion function seems like it has potential for foreplay use such as on the way home from date night in the car to get warmed up, but during sex, we both agreed that the straight vibrations and increasing intensity are the way to go.

For the guys:

For me as the guy, the vibrations and slightly added “tightness” were also very enjoyable.  With the Tiani 3, I didn’t really notice the vibrations as much, though the added firmness was about the same as with the Tiani 24k.  However, the dual motor made a noticeable difference and as I thrusted slower, the vibrations could be felt against different points in my penis shaft as the vibrating insert moved from being pressed against the head to a little lower than the middle at full insertion.

If your hubby bubby is prone to faster ejaculating, he may be especially prone while you are wearing this, but I’m sure he won’t complain because it’s pretty awesome.

Where To Get the Lelo Tiani 24k:

Lelo is selling the Tiani 24k on Amazon here:


What do you think of our Lelo Tiani 24k review?  Leave a comment below!