How to Shave Your Vagina Without Razorburn

How to shave your vaginaAt Women and Sexuality, we don’t just want to focus on sex sex sex… It’s almost March and you know what that means!  No, not March Madness – who cares about that.  I mean bikini season!  Or at least bathing suit season, not necessarily bikini season for some of us.  Now, whether you like it or not, summer brings fewer and fewer clothes.  And going to the pool!  Especially if you have kids!  And if you’re going to the pool, you’re going to want to remove more of that bush you’ve been using as a winter blanket.  But one of the things that keeps us from going totally bare down there is the fear of razorburn!!!  So, this tutorial is to help you know how to shave your vagina without getting razorburn!
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Tip 1 of 2: How to shave your vagina: Do not start with a lather of shaving cream!

So the first thing you do is to hop in the shower, get it real steamy, and head right for the shaving cream, right?  Wrong!  Yep.  I don’t start with shaving cream all over the place.  Here’s why:

  1. Shaving cream gets bulky and obstructs the view of your work!
  2. It washes off easily, leaving you no protection!
  3. It doesn’t help prevent razor burn.

Shaving cream is better than nothing, though!  Do not try shaving your vagina without some lubricant to help the blades glide smoothly over the skin!

 

 

But what should I use, then?

Okay, this article wasn’t just to tell you what not to do but also tell you how to shave your vagina.  This may sound odd, but trust me.  Get a little coconut oil.  REALLY.  Not vegetable oil, not soybean oil, not massage oil.  Get some coconut oil.  It’s inexpensive – get some on Amazon.  Get this one – the bottle will last you for months because you only need a little at a time:

Now, we’re pretty big fans of Coconut oil here at Women and Sexuality.  We have written about it’s benefits here:

6 Reasons to Use Coconut Oil as Lube and as Massage Oil

and here:

Is Coconut Oil Safe for your Vagina?

but hear me out here on why to use it for shaving.  What doesn’t dissolve in water like shaving cream???  That’s right – oil.  So when you apply some coconut oil all around your vagina and all through the hair, it forms a small barrier between the blades and the skin while lubricating so the blades slide smoothly.  If you really want to, go ahead and apply a thin layer of shaving cream on top of the coconut oil.  It’s a little overkill, but you’ll feel in your safe zone again.

Also, when you’re done showering, you’ll still be silky smooth down below!
vagina illustration - driection to shave

Tip 2 of 2: How to shave your vagina: Shave with the grain!

Even though this is the most important tip around how to shave your vagina, it comes second.  DO NOT START AT THE TOP OF YOUR VAGINA AND SHAVE UP!  Really.  And do not start at your labia and shave out toward your leg!

hair follicle

Here’s the thing: generally your pubic hair starts at the follicle and grows toward your vagina.  Then it gets all curly and bushy like a 70’s disco band.  But before it goes all bell bottoms on you, typically it starts growing toward your vagina to protect it and keep it cozy and warm.

Now, razorburn is actually when the razor blade comes in contact with the skin, meets hair at the follicle, and rips the skin along with the hair.  Check out the hair follicle image.  Notice the hair doesn’t just grow straight out from the skin!  You want to shave in the same direction as the hair is growing!  Guys have known this for years.  Hair on their faces grows down, while hair on their necks generally grows up.  So they shave down on their face and up on their necks!  So why are all us ladies shaving against the way the hair grows on our vaginas!?!

Bonus tip!

Your leg hair is typically not as thick as your public hair.  So you might not have an issue with razorburn on your legs.  But, if you do, try shaving down your leg, not up!  Your leg hair typically grows down toward your feet, so shave in the same direction if you’re getting razorburn, even with a new razor!

How to Trim Your Bush

How to Trim Your Bush

How to Trim Your Bush: Some things to ponder and some products we love for trimming our bush. Personal Trimmers and Waxing Kits 101.

DON’T BE AFRAID TO MAKE THE CUT!  

You look down below and realize you’ve really neglected your bush- it’s crazy overgrown. It hasn’t had much attention lately and has really gotten out of hand. The first step is acknowledgment and the second step is to make a plan to trim this way back …

There are a couple of right ways to clean up this bush and a better time of the year to really trim it bare. 

Winter Months: Let this thing just take it’s natural shape. This is 70s style and the Europeans do it all the time, you remind yourself.

Spring: Grab a pair of these lady bush trimmers and find a comfortable location to begin your maintenance work. Next, decide how much you want to take off. Do you want to just give it a little shape around the edges? Maybe you’re feeling more daring today and want to remove the entire overgrown shrub? No, you decide. Save that one for when you go on vacation this summer.  You’ve got real landscaping skills and have an extra 5 minutes to yourself in the bathroom. You decide to trim your bush back but leave your hubby’s initials etched into it! He’ll love it you think to yourself!?!

Summer: You’re on trend so the Brazilian is the way to go. You agree to wax your crack if your hubby does his two. You buy your at home Brazilian waxing kit here, give it a try and then decide to never try that one again at home. Ooops, the wax ended up in a spot it probably was never intended to go. After a very painful and embarrassing visit to the ER you vow to never, ever speak with your spouse again. Please DO NOT attempt this at home! Trust the waxing professionals, they get paid the big bucks for a reason to do this job.

Fall: Time to use those lady bush trimmers again. Just one last maintenance trim to keep its  shape for the season. Or on those cool fall nights when you’re feeling energized, you trim the shrub back so he can see the windows on the house again. This is his signal its time to go down, down there.

Why Use a Butt Plug??

Why Use a Butt Plug??

This article is intended to introduce one type of sex toy that may significantly enhance your sex life: the butt plug. We realize this product needs a better name if it’s to appeal to women. Butt + Plug does not equate to romantic sexy time in my mind. The anus is not a flat tire that needs a plug in it! Unlike a tire losing air and in need of a plug, poop is supposed to flow out of the anus, not be kept in with a plug! The marketing and design are all wrong for this product. But we digress… So far on Women and Sexuality, we have steered clear of the butt.  Until now, we just had not found the right anal play resources, products, and guidance to provide.  However, as ladies and couples become more interested in expanding their sex live, providing guidance on the butt and how to safely use a butt plug and other anal products is important.

There is a clear interest in the anal region for legitimate reasons, so let’s explore the reasons from a nonjudgmental mind here.  The anus and other internal areas can provide a significant amount of sexual pleasure. The anus is an erogenous zone. For some reason your anus was designed with the functionality of sexual stimulation when explored carefully and with caution. However, you should not just jump right to having anal sex or you will likely never try it again (based on what we’ve heard).  You need to have some practice and do some preparation first and also determine if you even enjoy it. Let’s explore it responsibly and bring some spice to our sexual relationships.

A good way to practice is to first try out using a small butt plug (Did we mention we hate this description?).  Butt plugs will also help you understand whether or not you enjoy the feeling of anal stimulation.

How do I use a butt plug?

how to use a butt plug - pink plugBut what are butt plugs, who uses them, and why!?  The butt plug, as the name suggests is a sex toy that is inserted anally.  Both men and women use butt plugs alike! They come in a range of shapes and sizes but all should have a flared base or arms at the base to prevent the toy from being lost up the rectal passage.  Yes that can happen! Always be careful when using any anal equipment!

This sexual stimulation tool, once inserted, in and of itself won’t create much by the way of stimulation unless it is a vibrating butt plug. Vibrating butt plugs can deliver a thoroughly enjoyable stimulation.  This is true particularly for men because they massage their P-spots (the prostate gland) as they vibrate. For women, they place pressure against the back vaginal wall and so make the space in the vagina less expansive.  This can make vaginal penetration more pleasurable both for the woman and the man penetrating her as the vagina feels tighter. The real value of a butt plug is felt on climaxing as orgasming with a butt plug inserted heightens the strength of the orgasm.  For this reason, butt plugs can be enjoyed by men and women, solo or as a couple.

 

Why are butt plugs used? An illustrative video

Below is a great informational video that our friends at Carvaka Sex Toys produced.  It provides a good amount of information about what butt plugs are, why people use them, how to use a butt plug, and how they help heighten the sexual experience. It is also important to us here at Women and Sexuality that any images or video on the site do not have any graphic images. Thankfully, the video below only uses illustrations! Thanks again to Carvaka for producing the video. We hope you find it as interesting and helpful as we did!

 

If a poop covered plug is not something your significant other is interested in, please be cool with that.  He/She may have no desire for a close-up on his/her spouse’s anus and/or easily grossed out by bodily fluids. This sexual stimulation tool is not for everyone.

Remember, good relationships and a good sex life is about good communication and respecting each other’s boundaries.

What butt plug should I get?

Okay, we’re interested. What’s a good one for beginners? Here are a couple that we would recommend, from manufacturers we trust. Don’t just get the least expensive plug out there on Amazon!

Female Anatomy: Knowing Your Body

Female anatomy - knowing your body

 

Below is a link that shows a drawn illustration of the female vulva (aka your external lady parts). The link is from the Mayo Clinic website.

https://www.mayoclinic.org/vulva/img-20005974

If you’ve got questions about your vulva, you’re probably not the only one. What does normal looks like down there? Where’s your clitoris? Take a mirror with you into the bathroom and get familiar with your lady parts.  It’s important to know the female anatomy.

Don’t worry ladies: not all vulva look identical! You may have a darker pink or even brown colored labia majora and labia minora. Your labia minora may protrude past your labia majora and that’s perfectly normal too. Like a lot of things in life, there’s variation, and remember your body is uniquely made 🙂

If you have any questions, please consult with your doctor.

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Sexuality definition according to Merriam-Webster:

“the sexual habits and desires of a person

Full Definition of SEXUALITY:

:  the quality or state of being sexual:
a :  the condition of having sex
b :  sexual activity”