This article is intended to introduce one type of sex toy that may significantly enhance your sex life: the butt plug. We realize this product needs a better name if it’s to appeal to women. Butt + Plug does not equate to romantic sexy time in my mind. The anus is not a flat tire that needs a plug in it! Unlike a tire losing air and in need of a plug, poop is supposed to flow out of the anus, not be kept in with a plug! The marketing and design are all wrong for this product. But we digress… So far on Women and Sexuality, we have steered clear of the butt. Until now, we just had not found the right anal play resources, products, and guidance to provide. However, as ladies and couples become more interested in expanding their sex live, providing guidance on the butt and how to safely use a butt plug and other anal products is important.
There is a clear interest in the anal region for legitimate reasons, so let’s explore the reasons from a nonjudgmental mind here. The anus and other internal areas can provide a significant amount of sexual pleasure. The anus is an erogenous zone. For some reason your anus was designed with the functionality of sexual stimulation when explored carefully and with caution. However, you should not just jump right to having anal sex or you will likely never try it again (based on what we’ve heard). You need to have some practice and do some preparation first and also determine if you even enjoy it. Let’s explore it responsibly and bring some spice to our sexual relationships.
A good way to practice is to first try out using a small butt plug (Did we mention we hate this description?). Butt plugs will also help you understand whether or not you enjoy the feeling of anal stimulation.
How do I use a butt plug?
But what are butt plugs, who uses them, and why!? The butt plug, as the name suggests is a sex toy that is inserted anally. Both men and women use butt plugs alike! They come in a range of shapes and sizes but all should have a flared base or arms at the base to prevent the toy from being lost up the rectal passage. Yes that can happen! Always be careful when using any anal equipment!
This sexual stimulation tool, once inserted, in and of itself won’t create much by the way of stimulation unless it is a vibrating butt plug. Vibrating butt plugs can deliver a thoroughly enjoyable stimulation. This is true particularly for men because they massage their P-spots (the prostate gland) as they vibrate. For women, they place pressure against the back vaginal wall and so make the space in the vagina less expansive. This can make vaginal penetration more pleasurable both for the woman and the man penetrating her as the vagina feels tighter. The real value of a butt plug is felt on climaxing as orgasming with a butt plug inserted heightens the strength of the orgasm. For this reason, butt plugs can be enjoyed by men and women, solo or as a couple.
Why are butt plugs used? An illustrative video
Below is a great informational video that our friends at Carvaka Sex Toys produced. It provides a good amount of information about what butt plugs are, why people use them, how to use a butt plug, and how they help heighten the sexual experience. It is also important to us here at Women and Sexuality that any images or video on the site do not have any graphic images. Thankfully, the video below only uses illustrations! Thanks again to Carvaka for producing the video. We hope you find it as interesting and helpful as we did!
If a poop covered plug is not something your significant other is interested in, please be cool with that. He/She may have no desire for a close-up on his/her spouse’s anus and/or easily grossed out by bodily fluids. This sexual stimulation tool is not for everyone.
Remember, good relationships and a good sex life is about good communication and respecting each other’s boundaries.
What butt plug should I get?
Okay, we’re interested. What’s a good one for beginners? Here are a couple that we would recommend, from manufacturers we trust. Don’t just get the least expensive plug out there on Amazon!